Till the last breathe

Till the last breathe, I have to live my beautiful life with pessimist, complaining people around me. Till there last breathe they neither stop complaining nor quit their path from being with me! I am no less than them the only difference is I am at the receiving end! I am 28 and I still try to correct my mistakes and try hard to make them feel happy or at least stop them complaining on me. Five years of constant correction got no change in them, I think I am not late to have a resolution for 2017 and my resolution is to stop trying to impress them and think about my life!

Lessons I learnt from 2016

• If you are not blood related to any person, forget it folks they need you so they are with you. They got no good feeling for you.
• Never try to be good with most undesiring people. They are so bad to understand your value.

Number Value!

Today in one of the videos it said, in kaliyuga people give a lot more preference to money. After the video when I looked at the things I felt that's absolutely true. We value everything with money! More the money you spend more the value of the thing! All the precious metals, stones, land, house, tree, vegetables, fruits, water all the high quality product ask us for more money. But, in this rush of making more money and getting high value things we are forgetting the most important products of life, that's Love, Respect and Happiness! When we look back we are having a materialistic happiness and all subtle things are ignored.  May be someone rate the Respect, the Love and the Happiness and it should be more costlier than anything else on the earth. May be then people might grow greed to acquire them. May be then they find short cuts to give most of love, respect and may then acquire more real happiness. Will that happen? How bad, just because a human is not rated with number he don't value them! What kind of humans are we?

Righteousness!

Yesterday, when I was telling my kid about Lord Rama he asked me,"Mom, What made Lord Rama so great?". By hearing this question the mommy mind of mine wanted to teach my son about Righteousness of Lord Rama. I wanted to tell him, life gives us what we give to it, so obeying and respecting elders, beginning truthful, treating everyone with respect and knowing our limits helps us to live a righteous life as Lord Rama. But, is the world still like that? Is society we live in is helping us to be righteous? 

When I ask my husband about his day at office, well by the conversation we have everyday about his work life, I understood that work life is all about derogating. If some one want to show case their talent instead of trying to come up with the best ideas, world took a short-cut of belittling! Since childhood I was (most of us in fact) asked to share our knowledge or thoughts. Now-a-days secretiveness invaded on us, we hid things we do, we are planning to do or things we already did. When the time comes to answer or inform about the things we did, we either act ludic or act as if  it happened without our knowledge or effort! When something great happens with us we can see a few people feeling happy for us, most of them are either surprised or egoistic. No one cares about others, everyone has there own borders and we care and bother about people within that border. People won't be happy to get a suggestion from the person from other side of the border and they also doesn't like to hear them. The only thing people on other side of the border can do is either showing crocodile tears or feel jealous. Altercate, complot is the way the society lives! There is no age to behave in this way, everyone has his/ her own reasons to be like this.

Is there a way to get away from this society? Do we have to teach kids about righteousness or do we have teach the tactics to be safe from the people and there thoughts?

World, as I see it!

World is big place. Geologically with seven continents, five oceans and lot many people with lot many cultures. Of those many people a small group makes my family, friends, neighbors and well-wishers or friend of friend! I feel so blessed to have everyone so different from other, it helps me learn a lot about 'The World' . 

As my better-half always mentions people talk to you only when they feel you are useful to them! Well, as I already mentioned different people starts with my better half! In fact, from the day I stepped out of my house to my in-laws my encounter with different people started and eventually my learning 'the World' started at the same phase! After one complete year of training / learning / studying, I learnt people are not good or bad its only the state of our mind.  When on good mood even if we talk to the most ridiculous or a bossy character we don't feel much. I should admit, I am very thankful to my bad mood days! they make me cry but they never made me fight or argue.  

But the bad mood days and meeting ridiculous character was always coincidental! Few of those are highly unforgettable. On a busy morning with guest at home and after dropping my kid at school I came home and sat down with my guest on the coffee table. Then the questions started to shoot on me, of all the questions one was so ridiculous, "You still cook Indian(my native), is it OK if you still cook it. Because, we stopped eating it.". With grin I just replied,"I don't know how to make an Irish coffee!". In the later part of the day on the breakfast table, I made upma(another Indian dish with cracked wheat), I completely forgot the conversation we had at coffee, my bad! "Is this Quinoa?" she asked me, with a grin again I just said 'no'. Being only an year old to the foreign land if forgetting nativity is the point then, I call The World I see a piece of ridicule!

In empty minds..!

When there is loads of work in hand or when I was preparing for an exam, I always wish for a day where I have no work at all. Finally when those days visit my life, I start my day very late with one hot cup of coffee. With lots of laziness I do all of my household chores, most of the time preferring to watch TV, just by browsing all the channels. The second day is also the same, on the third day I feel so guilty for getting up late,  so on fourth day I get up early. But I get confused because I have no urgent in completing my chores no rush to go out, so then why do I have to complete my chores in rush. Henceforth days look so humdrum and then I start to feel so gloomy just like Eeyore from pooh bear book.

This emptiness in brain makes us think about every single thing of life. There would be no situation left without looking to the other side of it. Everything looks wrong! When a person ask "what are you doing?",this question makes to think, rethink and reframe the question to as " you got nothing to do here, so what are u doing here?". This makes the empty mind to develop negativity on that particular person. From the point of maid and mother-in-law chat to husband and mother-in-law whispers turn soooo suspicious! We don't know whom to blame for these thoughts. Then we pressurize our brains, if it works well then we feel good or else everything looks so problematic. Then we feel so depressed, stressed, lonely and what not! The evil of negativity then comes to action, giving as much as negativity as it can. Getting havoc into life! 
That must be the reason people call empty minds devil workshop. Keeping oneself busy gives lots of healthy food to brain. Let's wish for healthy thoughts.

THE VISA

       Few years ago one of my cousins got B1 visa, he is the first person from my family to go abroad. Everyone from family, his friends, neighbors went his home with flower bouquets, sweets as a part of his send off. After they left airport I still remember his living room was like a flower bed! At that age he looked like hero to me. He became a role model to everyone of my cousins. At that stage if it is education then it is engineering, because he did! ( of course he is the most successful person). 

     At last the day has come, he came home. Again a big get together at his home. He got many chocolates (kisses and Hershey), make up kits for girls in the family, some games to boys. After receiving them we are more happy to see him back! This thing continued, he going to some country and getting some gifts is so exciting. Slowly everyone from the family started flying abroad and they continued the legacy of getting at least chocolates! Even I followed the legacy and got hand fans from Japan to my cousins ;-) . For voyagers like us this time it's an opportunity to fly to the land of opportunities, that is the United States of America! 

Preparations to visa interview: Three websites full of most why, how and what questions. 

Documents: From the day we born to present day everything that belongs and named on us.

     With very good preparation we entered Chennai US embassy. I was surprised to see the queue in front of the embassy! When I asked one of the security guards he said that it was less dense! I asked him again what if it rains, he said, people still stand like that on the foot path! At last by some gods grace we entered into the embassy with no rain drop on us, on that cloudy day in Chennai. The person at the embassy asked nothing other than my qualification and our visa got approved! I was like shocked, how come he didn't ask me about my husband pay slab, the place where my husband works in United States( which I mugged up perfectly), why do I want to go US and who will take care of my expenses there! I am shocked to know that my visa got stamped with none of those questions beginning posted.  In the place like Chennai where even BBC played in Tamil, I managed to ask one of the guards there, is my visa really approved then, he said yes. More than happiness I was surprised to know this! 
     Going to any other country is different but going to United States is more different!

Change

The one think which everyone wants is the change!
       Well I wished for it, when it really came to me I am confused, frightened! This change is not new to us, it happens every time but attempting it again by putting the previous experiences into consideration with more care to not to repeat the same mistakes is the task. 
Meeting new people, new place, new life sounds really exciting.. But the person who really faces it knows what's in that task. 

    No pain, no gain.
I feel I am blessed to learn about different people around, their culture and many a things like that... I am thankful to god for this painful yet exciting task again!