Existence of good

What do you think about God? Does he seriously exist or else is it just one of those few misconceptions we are caring from centuries! 
        
        Take Lord Rama into consideration, he build a bridge called Rama Setu or Adam's bridge which connects SriLanka and India. He is also known for his righteousness. NASA proved the existence of that bridge, which is an engineering marvel of  5026BCE. Roughly at 3220BCE Lord Krishna born in Mathura and brought up in Gokul across Yamuna river. He lived for 125 years, all this time he taught people 'DHARMA' , he fought against bad and rakshasa (really very bad people). There is a tribe named "Mathangs" in  Srilankan jungles, they believe and experienced Lord Hanuman who visit there place once in every 41 years! There experiences about the visit of Lord Hanuman is written in a book which is under translation. http://www.setu.asia (for details please browse through this website). 

         What made us to worship them all? Naughty acts of Krishna, righteous rule of Rama, devotee like Hanuman and many others. Is that the miracles which fascinates us or else the wish for miracles to shower on us?People say when you truly worship God he showers miracles to do good. True worship is through righteousness, that is what Bhagavad Gita teaches us.  A person becomes God for his righteousness but not for the miracles.  It's the positive thought in you makes things happen and makes the success knock your door. We worship God everyday for the positivity to grow within us, but not for the miracles. 

Live Life righteously. Be optimistic. 

Expectations!

There are two subjects on this earth where most of them are experienced, have knowledge and strong, very strong opinion on it, they are Pregenacy and Parenting! 

As my son started going school, I accompanied him for few days( for induction classes). Few others parents like me were also there. So, usual parent chat about snack they are packing for kids, there habits and there ways of parenting were our topics. Each one of us have there own views, experiences, talent to tackle with kids! Out of all of them one mother is quiet mentionable, she has a son too. After a few days in a conversation we came to know that she wants to see her son with glass on his nose and constantly reading a book! She also said she doesn't allow him to watch television because it would distract him from books and beginning a well behaved kid. Yes, he was a well behaved kid. This confident mother use to give advises to teacher! Poor teacher she never said never to her!( that shows her patience). Even advises to fellow parents about parenting. Initially, It was going well for her and us too. After a few days a call from teacher shook her. Her well behaved kid is no more a well behaved one! Out of his excitement to he started pushing every one. More than this her son not getting A plus panicked her a lot!!! For this thing she took him and herself to counsellor!!

There is a limit for expectations. There should be balance in life. We are parents to guide them in the path chosen by them. Don't pressurize kids for your dreams, give them a balanced life. 

Birthdays after marriage!

Most awaited day in a year is my birthday. First thing to check in calender is the day of my birthday. If it's on weekend, it would be so depressing because I can't put on new dress to school and share cookies or chocolate with my pals! Celebration starts with getting a new dress, momma preparing my favorite sweet, daddy preparing the guest list. Because of the excitement I couldn't sleep before night! After a tiresome day, I use to make plans for my next birthday!

After marriage this turned out to be different. Yes I check the day of my birthday and remember the date (now we celebrate according to lunar calender) but, I will not tell anyone about it. Because it would help my husband to remember my birthday. Exactly a month before my birthday I don't speak any thing about shopping, even that thing would give him a clue! But he gets a dress for me, then I ask him why! He says for my birthday. With no expression on face I say 'oh' but I feel, " oh! You remember!". On the day of my birthday I check is he making my 3 year old son wish me? Is my in-laws wishing me properly? Is he giving a good party? I don't want to miss any opportunity to shout on him! 

Despite of his extra extra care to celebrate my birthday there will be few mistakes. Like, this time he wrote my age on the cake! I asked him why? He said, " if we lit those many candles, it turns out to be a wax cake! So I asked him to write on it!". I don't have words! Now on the thought of the word 'birthday' is reminding me the number!! So spooky.. 

Blame whom! -- Impact of Movies

People are crazy to watch movies on television no wonder how many times they watch the same movie but they still enjoy it as if they are seeing it for the first time! My mom she said long back when they got a television it's only doordarshan channel on tv, and that channel use play a movie on Sunday somewhere at evening. By that time women use to complete there household chores and with there kids along they use to come to my grand ma's place just to watch movie. With full attention they use to watch that movie and after that they use to discuss about it with some tea and snacks, that is how the TV is! 

Now it's completely different in my case, given a chance I can watch TV for one whole day and the impact is, when my mum speaks about her childhood I imagine it in Eastman color! One day she told how she met my dad, I imagined my dad in bel bottom pants, his hair partitioned towards left and a trim mustache ( anyway my dad is always handsome). My mom with long hair, curly earlock and some silk saree. When my grandma speaks to me about her childhood I imagine it in black and white! When I was a kid I use to wonder how they lived in world like that!!! 

Going further yesterday I told my kid that his dad got stuck in traffic and it takes 15 more minutes for him to come home. Then he suggested why won't dad break the car windows and come home running!!! 

And The Legacy Continued.....

Success, Perfection

Well, sitting at home all these years one of my favorite pass time is to interact with successful women round the world. I am very thankful to internet. Many dancers, writers, entrepreneurs, singers, actors.. Who not everyone. They are very successful both in career and in family! 

Today I got an a beautiful opportunity to speak to one them. She is a writer, she won many awards for her humor. She has two kids who are now at there dream position and enjoying there work. When I spoke to her about her kids she said," Only there marriage is left other than that I think I am done with all other responsibilities.". Women who is 52 years old and her husband who is the very well educated are successful persons I have seen till the date. Being desperate about the mantra/secret of there success I asked her one direct question about her mantra to success. She smiled, took a pause and asked me what made me to consider her successful, I told her excellence in her hobby to write, excellence as a wife and a mother. Then, she explained me success depends on the things in which you want to excel. For her those three aspects are important and she gave her complete attention to fulfill them. This small conversation gave me so much of information. 

For being successful we have to prioritize our wants and with perfection we have to fulfill each and everything then success automatically knocks our door. Perfection in every aspect is tough but trying to acquire it is challenge!

Good, Bad and Mother-in-law

Breaking News..

 There is a new adjective added to my dictionary! It was a noun which turned to a adjective and my new adjective is 'Mother-in-law'. Now the question raises how to use this adjective? Well, I give you some situations. 

Friend at a party

Lal -- Hey, you promised me that you don't put this dress to this party! Look we both are in same model dress :(

Chac -- I know this so mother-in-lawic but,  I have no choice. Sorry!

Sisters at airport

Lal -- Siri, where is the handbag you promised me?

Siri -- Aww.. Sorry de, you have better bags so I thought why will you use a cheap one. So I didn't get...

Lal -- Sooooo mother-in-law! What if I got a new one! I will use it also right... 

After a tired some day when you come home your cook....

Cook -- Madam, I didn't know how much rice to cook so..sorry I didn't prepare dinner. Please say the quantity I will cook now.

Lal -- Don't show your mother-in-lawic tactics! You are the one who is cooking for many years and you don't know!

So friends, well-wishers and who ever reading this one, whenever a situation reminds your mother-in-law just use the new adjective Mother-in-law.

Imagine....

Imagine...

I was once riding my new cycle. New cycle and many paths a head, I chose one of those paths. Happily and joyfully riding on my cycle in the path chosen. They were obstacles, ups and downs but, I never felt my cycle. I continued my ride on the path chosen. After passing few miles I saw a man who is riding his cycle, I liked him and his cycle too! I parked my cycle and took his cycle. Now, he  has to ride the cycle with some more effort and I sat behind him. We shared and will share beautiful views, happiness and obstacles together. You know what that man says......

                                           " Now I have a reason to live LIFE"

Love your life.. One life to live, never give up. Love your compromises to have a happy life.

Popular Girl

It's about girl who came from a suburb. She was very popular there. First in class, first in sports, first girl to learn two wheeler in short first in everything. There were people who use to admire her and took her as an inspiration. She passed all her examinations with 90+ percentage then people called her 'Queen of Marks'. She was the first to pursue Engineering and the one who placed at top MNC through campus placements. These all things gave pride to her she knows that she is one among many people but she is very popular in her colony. When she attended a party or a ceremony or any gathering she is center of attraction in any occasion. She loved her life, being popular is always interesting. But time changed...

Before she joined her job she got a wedding proposal. There family was good and groom is NRI. Soon she got engaged. At her engagement people called her 'The Most Happening Girl of there Town'. After hearing all these things she was on cloud nine. Soon after her marriage she flew with her husband to Tokyo. There they had a private, independent and happy life, everyone are happy for them. Soon she conceived she never got an opportunity to work at Tokyo. After some time she had baby so,she never got a chance to think about going out and then she was so busy with new born. After some months she thought of visiting her native place. She was so excited to go there but she doesn't know that time changed them too...

When she visited her native place she was surprised to know that many are working for top MNC company in very good designations, they drive themselves to office, few of them also opted to do there PG in other country. Now, she is no longer special to anyone. To her surprise everyone started asking her how does she spends her time by doing nothing! But this poor girl has no time to think about free time. Now that popular girl is no where, someone else are at that position. She always wanted to tell her to keep up same confidence and identity when someone else take her position. But she never wanted someone else life go easy...!

Needs vs Wants

One day my driving instructor Ali asked me whether there are any opportunities for his wife in corporate field. Then I asked him about his wife's educational back ground, then he said, "My wife completed twelfth but she is a fast learner. Long ago she got an opportunity at some call center because it is night shift I asked her not to take up that job.". Then I asked him about his children, he said they are grown up now and they can manage everything. He said,"Now a days it is very difficult to live a normal life madam, if we spent on milk it is difficult to spend on bread. We want to join our kids at a good school but the admission fee and monthly fees are very high. To face this situation I need a helping hand, as she is interested to do a job I am asking you ". After listening him I ensured him that she will definitely get a good job for her qualification. 

I was so moved by listening to him and I was thinking all about our conversation on the way to my gym. Soon in the gym I met my friend even she looked so worried. I went to her and asked the reason then she said, "I want to celebrate my daughters birthday at Marriott but my husband says he can't make it happen this time. She is our only daughter and more over its her birthday spending on it is excepted, he must have planned for it. ". "What is he saying?", I asked. "He is saying that we already spent so much of money on our vacation so its difficult to make it in that big Hotel. He asking me to celebrate it in my house. ". Then its time for gym we stopped our conversation and climbed on to the machines. I was just thinking about her house, well its a bungalow, her vacation was at Paris, her girl turned five and she goes to a International School. Besides my instructor problems are different he can afford to send his kids to some local school, he can afford for food, he can afford there clothing but, they didn't reach there wants. 

On the way back home I was just thinking about my conversations.  Later when I looked out of my car window what all I can see is a slum, where people live in a very small huts they cook there, they eat there and their children play there. They are all happy and Ali is in better position when compared to them. Some where deep in heart I am feeling bad about my situation too. Well, I want to join my son in a good school and my good school fees are also high! Of all our earnings the amount we save is a very few bugs. Everyone has one or other problem in life it must be because, no one are happy because there basic needs are served but they are looking at something more which this society giving us and asking themselves why they are not up to them. Every so called Class people are facing this problem. If this society restricted to normal food, normal shelter and normal clothes then I think these problems wouldn't have knocked our doors.

The Creator and The Destructor

Recently my aunt expired. She is very close to me and her demise is so unbearable.  Every moment I think about her. What is that making me to think of her? Is the question which I asked myself today. She is very generous, lovable and one who gets happy on others happiness, that is what she wishes. Till that day I don't know the meaning of death but, today I learnt it. It is a irreversible or solution less process..

God created us. He showed us paths to follow to live life in righteous way. We human beings say that if we follow those paths we go to heaven or else to hell, where we will be treated by demons. I don't know whether it is true or they really exist. But what I learnt was if we follow those righteous ways to live life we will be known for our goodness before and after us. I thought being selfless is foolishness which is one of my aunt's quality. But, on her death ceremony when everyone spoke about her then I realized it is the highest quality which is very difficult to acquire.

All of a sudden when we heard she is no more.. What should I feel? She is no more.. I don't know how she feels but how about memories? Is there any serum to erase them as a person erases from our life. Is the creator, the destructor? Why this life? Whatever may be the reasons she is no more... What is this and why? Why this unwanted guest visit us?

Everyday when I see any person who is working very hard for there survival in this race of life, I feel willingly or unwillingly we all got to visit the same unwanted guest. No one can escape from that guest. So living life righteously and for good purpose at least leaves a good word about us.